Now that you know my frustrations about being judged as a parent on social media, I’ll rewind and tell you about my family and our journey.
Before I met my husband, Sean, I was pretty carefree, didn’t have too many goals and just went with the flow. October 19, 2015 Sean commented on a picture of my cat Pookie and that’s really how we met and started talking. We started dating October 22, 2015 and have really been inseparable since.
Sean has a daughter from a previous relationship, her name is Claire and she is about to turn 4. When we first started dating, Claire and I had a really close bond but over time, things have gotten rough between us because I’ve had to start taking an authoritative position when I used to just have rely on Sean to do the disciplining.
In December 2015, Sean and I had decided to move to Arlington Texas to better ourselves and our financial situations. We were both in a bad place with our depression and taking the time to get better was what we both needed to be the best for each other and Claire. January 31, 2016 Sean and I learned that we were expecting a child together. I was excited but also scared shitless. I had my heart set on going through with the pregnancy, but Sean wasn’t too sure about it. We talked about it for a couple days and he got on board with keeping the baby, and we were still on track to leave at the end of February for Texas.
Sunday February 28, 2016 we packed up our 2 cars (a Saturn Ion and a Chevy Cobalt) with as much stuff as we could plus the cat Pookie and we headed out. It was a very long 12 hour drive, we stayed in a creepy motel down the street from our new apartment and ordered some burgers to be delivered to us. The next Monday we went to sign our lease and it turns out the girl we talked to on the phone gave us the wrong total and we were short $200 to be able to move in. We sold one of Sean’s guns and finally got the correct amount. We didn’t have much. We didn’t have any furniture. We had a blow up air mattress, kitchen utensils and clothes. That was about it. The apartment had one bedroom, washer and dryer and German Roaches!
Sean got a job within the first week at a car dealership as a detailer, but I couldn’t find one at all. Sean ended up getting me one with the same company he worked with but I was a photographer. We made enough to pay our bills and rent, but not much left over for food. We shopped at the dollar tree and really limited ourselves with what we ate. I ended up getting a different job at a Dog Daycare, but that wasn’t too promising either.
Come April, it was time to find out the gender of our baby! A BOY! Riley Michael Boyer was expected in the middle of September!
Sean also got a new job at Aptive Environmental in April! This job was much better for us financially and he was home at normal hours as to his other job he worked from noon to 8. In May I flew to Denver to watch my Sister in Law, Katie, graduate from pharmacy school! When I landed back in Dallas, SEAN PROPOSED! Then once I got back, I also got offered a job at Aptive and started June 2nd. From June to the beginning of August, not a whole lot happened. August 6th, I turned 21! Woohoo! It was also the day of our baby shower. We drove down to Colorado with our dog Harlie and got SO MUCH STUFF! It all filled our car! It was crazy. Then August 24th, I had my usual doctor appointment for Riley. It turned out he was still measuring small and the doctor didn’t want him staying in any longer just so noting bad started happening, so he set an induction date….TUESDAY AUGUST 30! 6 days away! I called my mom right when we left the doctors office to tell her and she booked a flight that night to come out on Saturday! My stepmom also came out the morning of the 30th.
The morning of the 30th, my doctor told us to arrive at the hospital at 7:30, we got woken up to a call at 6:45 asking where we were because we were supposed to be there at 6:30! We loaded the car and off we went! They got me all hooked up and started the pitocin. Then gave me something to help with the pain, but it also made me sleep! I slept a lot of the day and at some point I got an epidural. The 30th came and went, but I got woken up around 4:30 saying that I was ready to start pushing. 2 HOURS OF PUSHING LATER!
August 31, 2016 at 7:03am my beautiful baby boy was born. 22 hours of labor and 2 hours of pushing and he was here! As perfect as ever!
After Riley’s birth, nothing really happend. Sean continued to Skype Claire every weekend and we really started having problems with Claire’s mom. Well to be honest, we had conflict with her since the day we left, but things seemed to start getting worse. We were planning to come back for Christmas, but didn’t want to risk it with the snow and everything, so we enjoyed our first Christmas together as a family.
Then March came! We moved back to Colorado, got a 3 bedroom apartment and tried to start working a schedule out so Claire could come with us 50% of the time. Claire transitioning was probably the absolute hardest on our relationship. We went through a whole lot in that month or two and it ultimately almost broke us.
In April, Sean started his job with Aptive again and has been working with them for now over a year and a half! I worked for them for a couple months, but couldn’t stand people being stupid and not learning how to do their job, so I quit. But I really enjoy my time at home with my little guy. Once he turns 2 he’ll be going to school!
In June, we were out of a lot of what we went through and June 19 we got married! Not much else has happened. Lots of drama with Claire’s mom, but that’ll be my next posting, and hopefully a lot shorter than this one. Riley’s first birthday just passed and now we’re just waiting for out next adventure to come along!